We're so proud of you for getting into Harvard! And on a scholarship too! You're an incredible son!
REACTION FORMATION: An individual has inward feelings that they know are not socially acceptable, so they purposely act in the opposite way to cover up these emotions to avoid conflict or hurting people's feelings.
Thanks mom and dad! I couldn't have done it without you!
I'm proud of you too! I want to be just like you when I grow up!
ugh, my parents are never proud of anything I do! I'm so jealous of my brother!
PROJECTION: An individual blames their own unacceptable feelings, desires, qualities, motives and feelings on another person in an attempt to make themselves feel better.
WHAT?? You're crazy!! I would never cheat on you, I love you!
You've been acting so distant lately... who's the other guy?!
gosh, I never should have cheated on her... I feel so guilty!
RATIONALIZATION: An individual makes up a seemingly acceptable excuse for their unacceptable behaviour.
YOU DO AS I SAY! YOU GOT THAT??
If I don't punish her, she'll never learn! This is for her own good!
ow, ow, OW! Please stop! *sobs*
EVERYONE LISTEN TO ME!!
DISPLACEMENT: An individual redirects and re-inflicts their frustrations and negative emotions from the original source to a less threatening, undeserving recipient.
You're kidding! That's so funny!
blah blah blah... hahaha! This teacher is so lame!
...I know! And then I was like...
What?! Daddy's not home and I don't know how to cook! I'm going to stave! You're so unfair!
Leave me alone, I just want to relax! Go make dinner yourself!