In the book "Can't Hurt Me" by David Goggins, he lived in a very nice home in Buffalo. His family had a vegetable garden and fancy cars. They fit into the upscale neighborhood very well. But as David says, "glossy surfaces reflect much more than they reveal."
Davids childhood was a nightmare. His Father was a pimp and alcoholic. He beat David's Mom while he and his brother would watch. David's Father would also beat he and his brother. It was a very strict household with a lot of chores and rules. David's Mother knew she had to get herself and her sons away from this mad man. She started making plans to leave.
Get to work you bums!Start mopping the floor!
The family's neighbor, Betty, showed David's Mother a way to get out. The first step was getting her a credit card. She packed very little and prepared to leave. Instead of going to the highway, she drove to a house Betty had set up for her. That gave them time to avoid David's Father and eventually they would find their way to David's grandparents house in Indiana.
I'm leaving your Father. You two can stay or you can come with me.