Building Healthy Relationships in Educational Settings: Strategies and Activities

Foundations of Healthy Relationships

One in three adolescents will be a victim of either verbal, physical, emotional, or sexual abuse during their lifetime. Ignoring this topic in our schools will not lower these numbers. As teachers, our ability to make an impact on student decision-making is limited to just a small amount of time, and it's important that we address the essentials. Unhealthy relationships can take many forms, and there are some aspects of unhealthy relationships that can be tough to talk about. Introducing the concepts of boundaries, red flags, and the cycles of a relationship gives students the tools to recognize them and make educated decisions.

Understanding Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationships

Building strong foundations requires distinguishing between healthy and unhealthy relationships. A healthy relationship thrives on mutual respect, trust, and communication, where both parties feel valued and understood. For instance, a healthy relationship encourages open dialogue, celebrates differences, and supports personal growth. On the contrary, an unhealthy relationship cycle often involves manipulation, imbalance, and poor communication. The cycle of unhealthy relationships typically includes stages of tension, conflict, and reconciliation, but often lacks resolution. Educating students about these dynamics can help them identify red flags like control, isolation, and inconsistency, guiding them toward positive relationship choices.

Relationship Awareness Activities

Awareness is key to recognizing relationship dynamics. Interactive discussions and role-play scenarios provide practical ways to teach students about healthy and unhealthy traits. For instance, group discussions could involve analyzing different scenarios to identify traits like respect, empathy, or manipulation. Role-playing activities can help students practice setting boundaries or recognizing when to ask for support. These activities empower students to distinguish between beneficial and harmful behaviors, equipping them with the confidence to nurture healthier connections.

Building Healthy Relationships in the Classroom

Classroom Relationship-Building Activities

Fostering a positive classroom environment requires activities that promote trust and cooperation. Cooperative learning tasks, where students work together toward a shared goal, help them practice communication and teamwork. Group projects can strengthen bonds as students navigate challenges and celebrate successes collectively. By encouraging collaboration, these activities create a supportive atmosphere where every student feels included and heard.

Connection Activities for Students

Connection activities to build relationships with students are essential for building meaningful relationships. Ice-breakers like "Two Truths and a Lie" or "Human Bingo" make initial interactions fun and relaxed. Peer interviews, group problem-solving challenges, empathy and relationship-building games are effective relationship activities for students, enabling them to better understand one another while practicing teamwork, communication, and conflict resolution.

Enhancing Relationship Skills Through Practical Exercises

Relationship Skills Activities for Students

Practical exercises provide opportunities to practice vital skills like empathy, listening, and conflict resolution. Active listening activities can involve pairs taking turns speaking while the other restates key points to show understanding. Empathy-building exercises could include discussing emotions portrayed in stories or scenarios. Conflict resolution games teach negotiation and problem-solving, emphasizing respect even during disagreements.

Building Classroom Community

Knowing how to build classroom community is important in establishing a shared vision. A strong classroom community can be built through regular meetings where students set shared goals or collaboratively establish rules. Creating a safe space where everyone feels heard encourages positive behavior and mutual respect. Shared goal-setting unites students, while collaborative rule creation fosters accountability and belonging.

Promoting Long-Term Relationship Success

Healthy Relationship Activities for Students

Healthy relationships activities could include partner interviews and collaborative problem-solving challenges. Partner interviews allow students to learn more about one another's values, fostering mutual respect and understanding. Collaborative challenges require students to support each other while solving problems together, emphasizing trust and teamwork.

Relationship Activities & Games

Games like scenario-based card games or digital simulations can offer engaging ways to practice relationship skills. In scenario games, students can navigate dilemmas, learning to make decisions that align with healthy relationship traits. Role-playing exercises provide safe spaces to experiment with different approaches, helping students build a toolkit of skills for various social situations.

By incorporating these activities and games into the classroom, educators can cultivate an environment where students learn to build and maintain healthy relationships, both now and in the future.

The following activities are aimed to spark discussion and reflection in the classroom.

Essential Questions for Healthy and Unhealthy Relationships

1. What are red flags of unhealthy relationships?
2. What is the cycle of unhealthy relationships?
3. Where can someone get help if they are or know a victim?

Teacher Background on Unhealthy Relationships

The statistics of abuse in relationships are frighteningly high. Unfortunately, these numbers may be on the low end, considering some victims can be fearful to come forward. Only about 30% of abuse in unhealthy relationships gets reported, and not every victim or aggressor is atypical. LGBTQ individuals are equally or more likely to experience some form of abuse in an unhealthy relationship. Men are more likely not to report being a victim. During any discussion, it is important to stress that the victim is not at fault for the abuse. One of the most common denominators when dissecting unhealthy relationships is guilt.

Our role as educators is to provide opportunities to help prevent unhealthy relationships. Talking about this topic is critical to stopping this norm from recurring because students will be able to recognize the signs and cycles. Understanding and offering ways to get help to students is important research to do before these activities. Loveisrespect.org is an excellent national program to reach out for help or to gain information. There is a 24-hour hotline for students to use by texting “loveis” to 22522 or calling (866) 331-9474. The national domestic violence hotline also has teen resources. Going over school safe zones, faculty members, and resources in the building should be a precursor to these lessons.

Additional Ideas

1. Vocabulary - Students create visual representations for vocabulary terminology.
2. PSA Poster - “There shouldn’t be one in three.” Have students create anti relationship abuse posters to hang around the school.
3. Getting Help - Students create different examples of victims asking for help.