Hey Molly, do you want to come to my party tonight?
Oh, I'm not sure, I might be busy, I'll think about it
Wait, but my best friend didn't get invited. Should I go or not?
Examine the Options
Well, I could go without my best friend, or I could not go and be with her.
Consider the Outcome
But if I went, I wouldn't be with my best friend, but I would get to go. On the other hand, if I didn't go, I wouldn't enjoy being at the party, but I would get to be with Amelia.
Identify Your Values
If I think that having fun is more important, then I'll go without Amelia to the party. But if I think that loyalty is more important, then I won't go and I'll stay with Amelia.
Decide and Act
Sure! My place?
That's fine.
Hey, I decided not to go to the party. But thanks for the offer.
Amelia, do you want to hang out tonight?...Yep! Sounds like a plan!
Evaluate the Decision
...And I'm glad that I chose to not go to that party. I'd rather hang out with you than go to that party.