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- An average day at school for friends Max and Matty...
- I'm totally down man! What were you thinking?
- Yo! Matty. We should do something tonight after school!
- Now you're talking!
- Will they ever shut up?
- Let's ride our bikes!
- See you at mine!
- Be there at 6
- I sure hope mom lets me hangout with Matty, I'm so sick of her saying no.
- Stage 1...Max is predicting conflict biased off of his mom's personal values and personal variables.
- Hey son, how are you?
- Hey mom, I'm home!
- The next morning...
- Tension rises, Max's mom expresses how she feels about Matty.
- I'm great... I was wondering if I could go biking with Matty.
- You know what I said about that boy, he's trouble. He doesn't do well in school. You're not going.
- Later at school...
- During the disagreement many emotions are prevalent. Anger from both sides is being shown. Which makes for an ineffective argument.
- But he's my best friend mom! This is so unfair, I hate you.
- I don't care, that's final, go to your room now!
- Next class...
- Why does she always do this, I just want to hang out with my friend.
- Stage 2... Conflict was perceived, and it made both parties mad.
- After class ended...
- Both parties, mainly Max's mom is avoiding the conflict because she perceives her opinion as right. She doesn't take Maxes side of the story into consideration.
- Why does he even want to hang out with that boy. I just wish he would realize that I'm just going to forget about it
- I wish John was here, he would be able to handle this.
- According to MedicineNet, children exposed to conflicts in marriages are more likely to experience guilt, loneliness, and feeling abandoned (MedicineNet, 2021)
- Past problems of Max's dad leaving have significantly played a role in how his mom handles conflicts. Obviously, Max's dad handled a lot of the arguments.
- According to Smiley (2018) using the avoiding method can be a useful way to manage conflict. However, if the conflict is dealt with it can lead to further complications later on. For the case of Max and his mother, time is important to relieve the anger. Conversations should only happen tension and emotion are off the table.
- During the transition into stage 4, Max purposely avoids conversation. He left without discussing their conflict from yesterday.
- Bye Mom!
- My mom wouldn't let me, and I couldn't talk back. She said you're a bad kid. I just need to let things settle down before I ask again.
- Are you okay? what happened? I thought we were going biking.
- Am I a bad kid? What did I do wrong?
- According to Smiley (2018) Matty is experiencing an Intrapersonal conflict. For Matty, he wants to act on the conflict because obviously it is affecting him.
- Do you want me to talk to her? I could show her that I'm a good kid.
- I will talk to her after school but if she doesn't listen, then maybe you should.
- Call me if you need help with anything, let me know what happens.
- Okay! I will. Thanks for all your help Matty!
- Why is this making me so sad? I just hope she'll let me hangout with Matty, if only she could see how good of friend he is.
- Max is showing great emotional intelligence. He is self-aware of his emotion and recognizes he is sad. In the research by Rahim et al., (2018) Matty is showing one of the 5 variables of EQ.
- Later that night...
- Here goes nothing!
- The next day...
- I'm home mom! I really want to talk to about what happened yesterday.
- Thanks for understanding mom.
- Okay, fine. We can talk about. The last thing I want you to be is mad.
- Look I understand you might not like Max, but he's an awesome guy. I feel like it's unfair that you get to decide who I can and can't hang out with
- As you can see, both sides are engaging in a productive conversation that is slowly solving the conflict. Both Max and his mom are aware, proactive, clarifying, and close to solving the problems. This conversation would not be successful if both parties were fuming with emotion.
- I understand son, I have just heard things through the grapevine that Max is not a nice boy. I just want what's best for you.
- I appreciate you looking out for me. But I want to hang out with Matty, so what solution can we come up with? Would you like to meet him?
- The conflict is close to being solved. A solution has been made, and it is very mature of Max to have such an adult conversation.
- I think that would be best. If I meet him, and he is who you say he is, then I will let you hang out with him.
- Finally, I can hang out with Matty. I can't wait to ride with him.
- I talked to my mom, she said she wants to meet you before we hang out
- Okay, awesome! I'll come over after class?
- Sounds great, just be yourself, I know she will love you.
- Okay I will, we will walk together.
- Let's do this!
- Nice to meet you as well Matty!
- Hey mom, this is Matty.
- It's a pleasure to finally meet you!
- Max's mom is showing amazing EI and conflict resolving skills. Instead of avoiding the problem, she reflects on the conflict and "[was] comfortable speaking up about important things" (Ackerman, 2018)
- I'm sorry for all this conflict and commotion. I just wanted to meet you before I let Max go with you.
- I knew this would work.
- That's totally understandable. I agree.
- Yes please!!
- I'm going to make dinner, do you guys want some?
- She is, she just needed to meet you. I knew it!
- Your mom is actually so nice! I'm glad we could get this over with and now we can always hang!!
- The conflict was solved, in the first stages, avoidance was used, and it turned out to work. Since both Max and his mom were able to drop their emotion, then proceed to have a clear, concise, successful conversation to manage the conflict.
- Well, that worked out well, I probably shouldn't have got so angry and defensive when he said he wanted to hang out with his friend.
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